Rev. Marian Stewart
Your Wedding ~ Your Officiant
Rev. Marian is an ordained Unitarian Universalist minister and one of her greatest delights as a minister, is to work with couples as they plan their wedding ceremony. She invites you into conversation about various aspects of marriage and your experience and expectations. Then the fun of planning the ceremony begins. Rev. Marian is careful to listen to your wishes and works hard to make sure that your day is exactly what you wanted. She is very adept at finding creative ways to make sure your wedding dreams come true. Rev. Marian serves the Northlake congregation in beautiful downtown Kirkland, WA. Originally from North Carolina, she has lived and traveled all across the United States and Canada, but loves calling the Seattle area home.
Marriage EqualityAlong with many others, Rev. Marian worked hard for the passage of Marriage Equality in Washington State. She is a firm believer that love does not discriminate; neither should we. On the first day of legal ‘gay’ marriage for same-sex couples in the state, Rev. Marian performed nine weddings in a grand Wedding Extravaganza. Upon signing the marriage equality bill, Gov. Gregoire said, “It is a day historians will mark as a milestone for equal rights. A day when we did what was right, we did what was just, and we did what was fair.” In a television interview on the day the votes were counted, Rev. Marian ended the interview with, “The public voted, and love has already won.”
On the Side of LoveRev. Marian is a minister in a denomination that has supported marriage equality for decades. The first state to approve same-sex marriage was Massachusetts and Unitarian Universalists were pivotal in the legal struggle that led to that decision. In a wonderful passage from the court decision, MA Supreme Court justice wrote, “Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being [and] a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family… Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.”
History of MarriageIf you are interested in the history of marriage, there are many resources at your disposal. Many religious traditions and cultures have long traditions surrounding marriage. But marriage does not exist only as a private or religious rite. Governments issue licenses and structure laws around who can marry, their age, relationship, etc. The larger history of marriage as an institution is quite interesting. If you are interested – and have time while planning your own wedding – let your curiosity lead you to a rich and nuanced understanding of marriage.
In the News...Rev. Marian engages not just her congregation but also the community at large in a call to love more deeply. Whether it be through hosting interfaith Vigils for Peace or writing letters to the editor, she is always strives to be gracious, loving, and compassionate. A believer in showing up to do the difficult work of loving our neighbor and making sure all are welcome is at the heart of her ministry. At the end of the day, we all need connection, community, and to know that we are loved – and are capable of loving. Here is a recent link that shows Rev. Marian working for love and justice inside the church walls and out in the community.
- Seattle Times Letter to the Editor